The Nice Guy

So I've started seeing this guy. We first met on an online dating site half a year ago, and even though he was super nice and we had a lot in common, he had a really big personal space bubble. After our second date I got a hug at the end of the night, and that was it. I was thinking that maybe he felt more of a "friend" connection and wasn't really attracted to me or something. Normally when people are attracted to each other there's a bit of playful touching going on, accidentally hit elbows, reach for the same thing at the same time, graze by each other when you go out the door, something! But the only time he touched me was during that hug at the end of the second date. So I let it go.

He told me later that he had gone on a date with another girl and felt more of a connection with her. So we decided to just be friends (he's a nice guy, good friend material). *Side note: The girl he "felt a connection with" ended up dating someone else while he was at his cousin's wedding in Mexico, and didn't inform him until he got back.* So we stayed in touch and a couple months ago we started hanging out more often. He's a good two-stepper so whenever my friends wanted to go out to the bar I'd always invite him.

He lives on a farm and got some hatching eggs a little while ago, so I asked if he would name one of them Dinner for me. So last week, we were out dancing and he told me that the eggs had hatched and if I wanted, I could come see Dinner. I said sure, I'd love to. So I went over to his place on Sunday night and I met his dog and his llamas and all the baby chicks and ducks. I asked which one was Dinner and he said he wasn't sure because he had named the very first one that hatched just in case it was the only one, but now they all look the same. Which I think is very sweet. 

We hung out for a while and built a campfire and he also showed me salamanders that have babies by his house every year. We talked for hours and he ended up confessing that he's never had a serious relationship. He literally has no "moves" so even though he really liked me, he had no idea how to show it. He told me that I'm really easy to talk to. He said he really screwed up when he had picked the other girl and would really really like to try again with me if I'd let him. So we're trying again, and this time I know he likes me, I just have to teach him how to make a move. I told him that I felt like he had a really big personal space bubble and he said he didn't realize he was doing that, he just didn't want things to move too quickly if I didn't want them to and basically he really had no idea what he was doing. So I guess we'll see how this turns out. I'm a tiny bit bothered by the fact that I'm yet again the second choice (I think this is the 3rd or 4th time this has happened in my life) but there's probably a better way I could look at it.